It is up to you to claim your identity. Decide what you believe in, what you stand for and what you are passionate about. If you are not sure, try things. Get uncomfortable, and then you will know you have begun some path of discovery. It is only with discovery of self, others, and our world, that we can truly learn what we need to know about what really makes us tick. What turns us on is vital to establishing identity. Be proactive, this matters so that you can know who the person is you are about to love. That person is you.